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How to catch a cheat
If you suspect your partner of having an affair, there is usually some reasoning behind the suspicion, even if it is just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Based on our experiences, it is better not to confront a suspected cheat directly unless you have some proof: if your suspicion is unfounded, this scenario can build distrust; if there is something to hide; chances are the suspicious party will lie, and then try harder to hide their mischievous ways! But that doesn't mean you can't ask indirectly; there could well be a reasonable answer to your questions.
Gifts Cost Money
With no self-respect cheaters will attempt to impress the lover with a cheap token of their affection. He'll spend whatever amount he/she deems necessary to buy a decent gift. The more impressive the present, the more money it will cost. And you can usually find evidence of his spending somewhere.
How to Find the Paper Trail
If your husband or wife does not pay cash for his lover's gifts, they'll pay by check or use a credit card. Whatever method they choose, there is usually paper trail. Check the bank statements, if you have access to them. Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Are there any canceled checks for large amounts made out to "cash"? Take a really close look at the time period shortly before or after Christmas or Valentine's Day.
Closely examine each of your husband's or wife's ATM withdrawal slips. Are there any large, unexplained ATM withdrawals? Read the information on each ATM slip. Is there anything unusual about the time, place or amount of the withdrawals?
Pay close attention to their credit card bills. Especially those holiday months like, December, January and February when Hanukah & Christmas or Valentine's Day charges are likely to show up. Any unusual charges made at jewelry stores, specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants etc. could be evidence of gifts bought for his lover.
What about actual charge slips or store receipts? They tend to be careless about these things. Check in their wallet, their pockets, backpack, briefcase and desk or dresser drawers. If you find evidence of gift items you didn't personally receive, that should raise a red flag in your mind. If your husband or wife didn't give these gifts to you, who did they gave them to?
Cheating Partner Surveillance Request Guidelines
Once a decision has been made to conduct surveillance, it is crucial that the surveillance investigator be provided with the following information to have a successful surveillance operation and provide you with the details you need:
- The correct subject's name and spelling. It is not uncommon for the wrong information to be sent resulting in loss of time and additional expense to locate the correct information;
- It is not always possible to provide a photograph of the subject; however, a good physical description would greatly assist in identifying them;
- If vehicle information is known, then every attempt should be made to provide it;
- If specific dates for the surveillance operation are required, it is important to discuss this with your surveillance investigator;
- Attempts should be made to provide the full civic addresses for your subject and not post office box addresses. This again reduces the costs involved in locating the subject's residence;
- Be clear in your instructions when permitting the use of pre-text telephone calls to your subject. This could be important if a lawyer is involved;
- It is important to inform the investigator if your subject has retained a lawyer and who is named in the "Statement of Claim'. If a lawyer has been retained, pretext telephone calls are not allowed and contact between the investigator and the subject, including his spouse and others occupying his residence may not be permitted;
- Be clear in reference to the time period you require the surveillance to be conducted. (i.e., start and finish times); and
- If dates, times and places of appointments are known, it is important that they are provided to the investigator
Since we specialize in Infidelity and Domestic Cases we have compiled a list of the most frequently asked questions by our clients. In the infidelity and domestic FAQ section you will find the answers to the, "How much is this going to cost?" question and many others.
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How to Catch a Cheat 
